Dear Abney,

I have a big date coming up and I have no plans for the evening. I know she will expect me to have something special planned. What should I do?

Why would you ask a girl on a date without plans? This is a key element in making sure that first date goes right. Girls do not like unassertive, confident guys. “Uh, what do you think we should do tonight?” is not an acceptable answer when picking up a girl. Instead, do something that will show her that you made plans, and care about spending time with her. Go for a walk around Greenlake, grab an early appetizer and a drink at a local restaurant or sit at the base of the Space Needle for a romantic sunset. Remember, the point of the date should be spending time with her, not spending money and game on her.

This cute guy keeps sending me signals at work. How should I react to his feelings?

Relationships in the work place are always a confusing issue. Certain people swear by them, while others are proof that they just don’t work. For the time being, smiles and a friendly attitude could mean a good coworker, so don’t make the first move. If he asks you on an outside date, then give him a chance, but play carefully. If it works, then work with it, but beware of managers and stockroom hookups. It’s never pretty and usually doesn’t end that way.

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