Dear A&W,

I feel like my boyfriend doesn’t spend enough time with me. How can I talk to him about it without driving him away?

It seems as if you and your boyfriend may be on different levels in your relationship. If you’ve always felt this way, then the two of you need define codependence and independence within your relationship. If this feeling of distance started recently, then he’s probably just looking for some space. Above all, trust your instincts. If you feel that something is wrong, talk to him about it, but make sure to do it calmly and without being over-emotional. If he won’t talk about the situation and work with you, give him the distance and let him walk.

Dear A&W,

Someone I’ve dated for only a month has asked me to visit her family with her for Thanksgiving. Is this too soon, or should I go just to be polite?

An invitation to share mashed potatoes and stuffing with good ol’ Uncle Tim is WAY TOO SOON after being together for only a month. However, you can be assertive and real about the situation without being a dick. Just be honest with her. Even if you’re having the time of your life with this girl, relationships take time to grow. Getting close too soon is an invitation for drama. Take your time and develop the relationship before Aunt Sally is pinching your cheeks at the dinner table. Besides, there are plenty of holiday get-togethers to attend if she does end up being “The One.”

A&W Are Aimee Zhang & Wes Abney

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